Throughout my teen years, into college and even now I hear girls who are beautiful, confident people talk about how fat they feel or how ugly they look. And I started to think... do I talk like that? Is that what Hadley will hear growing up?
It's heart breaking because this kind of talk and insecurity starts so early in life for girls. I remember my littlest sister getting upset when she was SIX YEARS OLD because she thought she looked ugly. She was in tears and my heart was breaking. How can six year olds worry about these things?!
Middle school and high school can be hard enough with out having to deal with eating disorders and body image problems. I think no matter what, almost every girl deals with body image problems at one point or another in their life... but I think creating a home where those things are talked about and where she can feel safe talking about them is the most important piece of the puzzle.
I may not be able to control all of the media Hadley will see but I can definitely control how I talk about my body and health. There is no doubt in my mind over the course of Hadley's life I'm bound to wake up one day and just feel gross. But I'm going to do my best to drop the F word from my vocabulary and focus on being healthy, confident and happy in my own skin.
I hope over time women will start to lift each other up about their bodies and beauty instead of comparing, criticizing and even mocking one another. I love seeing things like the Dove campaign with fuller-figured women representing other types of feminine bodies. I love that some of the focus has shifted from skinny to healthy.
We can all aspire to be our best, fit and beautiful selves... but I challenge you to listen to how you think and talk about your body and make a change for the better.
You are beautiful!!!!